For my grandparents, giving birth to another child was nothing more, as the saying goes, “add another spoonful of water to the congee”. As with a plant in your garden: you water it every now and then to make sure it stays alive.
But today, having a child in a prominent city in China means you have to pay millions of yuan just to allow yourself to live in a neighborhood with good schools, and having a son means having to move into another apartment for that. his wedding. . My mother joked, “We used to say ‘duo zi duo fu’ (more kids, more fortune); now it’s ‘duo zi duo baofu’ (more children, more burden)! ”
So if you are asking what effect the new birth policy will have on most Chinese women, the answer is: probably none. Since the one-child policy was fully lifted in 2016, many young couples still have not had more than one child. With the exception of the very rich, who can afford as many children as they want, and the very poor, who depend on children to care for them, the three-child policy will not change much. .
Yet on the day of its announcement, many people weren’t indifferent: Social media feeds were awash with teasing and complaints. Yes, even now that we can have three children, even now that we are encouraged to give birth – instead of being forcibly sterilized or forced to abort – we are also reminded that childbirth is regulated.
China’s birth controls deserve some credit. On the one hand, they freed Chinese minds from a certain traditional thought.
One of the results of the one-child policy was that unmarried girls who were only children began to receive more attention and more resources than before, and over time, people’s opinions. about the girls have changed. In the cities, at least, people no longer seem to favor boys over girls.
Those of us who were born as an only child and into a decent material life were able to reflect on our individual activities – and for us women that meant not needing to rely on carrying children as a measure of our worth.